Be qadri ka ehsaas

Yeh ehsaas ke aap ke sab se qareebi log aap ko is tarah nahin dekhte, aap ki qadr nahin karte, ya aap ka khayal nahin rakhte jaise aap ko zaroorat hai. Roshara jo lafz istemal karta hai, be qadri ka ehsaas, yani yeh mehsoos hona ke aap ki qadr nahin, woh aksar asal baat ke zyada qareeb hota hai, bajaye is ke ke koi aap se pyar nahin karta.

Jin hidayat par Roshara chalta hai, un mein se koi ise perimenopause (mahwari band hone ke aas paas ka waqt) ki alamat nahin kehti, aur hum bhi yeh daawa nahin karein ge ke yeh alamat hai. NHS inform, Scotland ki sehat ki website, khud par bharosa kam hone aur apna aap kho dene ke ehsaas ko menopause ki aam alamaat mein ginti hai. Yeh is ehsaas ke paas hain, magar aik hi cheez nahin. Roshara ka alamaat ka score phir bhi is ke baare mein poochta hai, kyunke yeh us tasveer ka hissa hai jo aap doctor ke paas le jati hain.

Sab se qareebi mauzoo jis ke peeche hidayat hain, udaasi hai.

Bhare dastarkhwan par baith kar bhi akela mehsoos karna. Shohar jo poochta hai ke khane mein kya hai, aur kabhi yeh nahin ke aap kaisi hain. Bachche jinhein ab aap ki kam zaroorat hai, aur aik ghar jo aap ki mehnat par chalta hai magar kabhi is ka zikr nahin hota. Saas ki koi baat jise aap kabhi kandhe uchka kar bhool jatin, ab kai din tak seene mein atki rehti hai.

Yeh andar ki taraf bhi mur sakta hai: yeh sochna ke kya aap ab bhi achhi lagti hain, ab bhi kisi kaam ki hain, ab bhi aap khud hain. Is mein se kuch aap ke halaat ho sakte hain. Kuch is baat se ho sakta hai ke aap aaj kal kaisa mehsoos kar rahi hain. Donon ho sakte hain, aur is par baat karne se pehle aap ko yeh hisaab lagane ki zaroorat nahin ke kis ka kitna hissa hai.

Agli appointment par is ka zikr karein, saath har us cheez ka jo badli hai: aap ki neend, aap ki mahwari, aap ka mood, aap ki tawanai. Doctor se yeh kehna ke mujhe apni be qadri mehsoos ho rahi hai, ajeeb lag sakta hai. Phir bhi yeh kaam ki baat hai.

NHS ki website kehti hai ke udaasi mein khud par bharosa aur apni qadr ka ehsaas kam ho sakta hai, aur kehti hai ke GP ko dikhayen agar udaasi 2 hafte se zyada rahe, aap sambhal na pa rahi hon, ya jo kuch aazma rahi hain us se faida na ho raha ho. Agar be qadri ke ehsaas ke saath aisa bhaari pan bhi hai, to udaasi aur depression parhein.

Yeh safha jitna sehat ke baare mein hai, utna hi ghar ke baare mein hai. Pakistan Menopause Society ki sifarishaat bhi ghar walon ko ahmiyat deti hain: woh doctoron se kehti hain ke counselling mein ghar walon ko shamil karein, aur hormone ki tabdeeliyon par khul kar baat, apni jagah ki izzat, aur apne jism ke baare mein achha mehsoos karne ka hausla dena aise tareeqe likhti hain jin se shohar aur ghar wale madad kar sakte hain (section 4.2.4.4 aur 4.2.6).

Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai. Kisi ko yeh safha dikhana. Apni aik zaroorat ke liye oonchi awaaz mein kehna. Shohar aur ghar walon ka saath par mazeed hai.

Agar yeh ehsaas deen mein shaadi, zimmedari ya sabr ke sawalon se jura hai, to kisi mustanad aalim se poochein. Aur agar ghar mein baat khud ko an dekha mehsoos karne se aage ki hai, aur aap khud ko mehfooz mehsoos nahin kartin, to apne doctor ko batayen.